Saturday, March 30, 2013

Let's Start A Revolution!

Last month, I posted some pictures of myself on Facebook. I had attended a function, an award's ceremony, with the husband. I wore a ruffled dress and worried the ruffles made me look fat.

This led to a discussion...

We need to stop this nonsense!!! And I know it's hard...because every five stinking minutes, every single time we turn on the television, every commercial that comes on, in every TV show we watch ***Does anyone watch Fast N' Loud, a flipping cars show? Just this last week the host Richard had a model coming in for a photo shoot and you know what the mofo said to the camera? "I hope she's not plus-sized." So what if she is, you pig?***every time we come online and check our email, Yahoo bombards us with pictures of the Hollywood starlets half naked on the red carpet in their skeleton bodies.

Every 5 minutes, we are told we need to look like this:

What I confessed to myself was: It's really just society's perception of what is sexy that keeps making me feel bad about myself. I need to learn to ignore it, but it gets really hard when all these "sexy" women photos are everywhere on Internet and TV. I swear every 5 min, we are reminded of what society thinks is sexy and I am not it.

No, I am not a size 0. You can't count my ribs. My hair isn't long and and mussed in sexy "I just got ravished" tendrils, my feet are not child-size. But does that mean I'm not sexy?

In the 1940s, 50s, and 60s...the women had curves and it was acceptable. Marilyn Monroe was a size 12. What happened to that? When did Hollywood decide women must be size zeros and about to blow away? And when did we start letting them tell us this? And worse, when did we begin to believe it?

Here's what I'm proposing: I want to start a revolution. I want us women to STOP believing this crap and start believing we are sexy the way we are. It must start with YOU and ME.

AND QUIT LETTING MEN OBJECTIFY YOU. The more you struggle with your appearance, the more you play right into their hands. I'm not saying to quit doing your makeup or whatever. You just do enough that when you look in the mirror you say, "Oooh, you sexy beeyotch!" Not, "Shoot! I don't look like Beyonce yet."

KNOCK IT OFF WITH THE BOOB JOBS. Increasing the size of your tits does not increase your value as a person or a woman. STOP doing things just to please men. 

Now, many women say, "I did it for ME." 

If you did it because having men stare at your chest makes you feel better about yourself, did you really do it for yourself?

If you need men ogling you to feel valued, that needs to stop too. *I do understand women who have breast cancer or health problems that deform or cause their breasts to sag too soon getting implants. This is aimed at those women who look in the mirror and say, "OMG! My breasts are too small! Men won't find me attractive."

And before I end my essay, what's up with Victoria's Secret ? Their Bright Young Things line or whatever it's called is targeting 13, 14, 15 year olds. And of course, the young models look as though they are about to blow away in a second. All skin over bones. Is this what we want our young girls to strive to be?

Don't get me wrong; there's nothing wrong with a young girl wanting hot pink panties, but I don't like the image/message VS is sending out with their young I'm-bout-to-blow-away girls modeling the stuff. Girls have enough self-esteem issues.

I'm going to sign off with a quote from my bestie Amanda because I really can't say it better:

"The problem is that there is one defined perception of sexy and it f's up so many women. There are so many women out there of all sizes that are amazing, sexy, and beautiful but nobody can admit it because of what people consider as the norm. I've started learning that it's soooo much easier to love myself no matter what than it is to hate myself and not be able to look in the mirror."



  1. I never really feel attractive.I'm a size 8...and yet I feel like that is too big now a days. No one tells me ins't like the hubby tells me I need to lose weight. But it is TV mainly. Skinny girls with their hair and make-up always done.

  2. Size 8 is super fine!!! I personally don't find it sexy to have every rib showing through. I bet you look great.

  3. LOL! Great post, Tara. I knew there was a reason I quit watching TV.

    I'm 5'9" and have a large frame. Have never been a size 8 and never will be, but have never had a problem with looking in the mirror. I don't always like what I see, but I know it's not's all me. :)

    As to VS, where in blazes are the parents of these girls?

    1. Some parents are fine with it and even encouraging it. It's an issue with two sides. As I said, though, I don't have a problem with cute underwear, my problem is their advertising.

  4. I've learned to accept myself and other women just as we are and it feels wonderful! Women at any age are beautiful, too. Nice post, Tara. And thanks for friending me on my blog! :]
    Deborah/TheBookishDame...doing all I can to stand up for strong women in literature

  5. I totally agree!! It is interesting you posted about this because this weekend I have been reading about women in the military who are being raped or sexually assaulted. Some of them are dishonorably discharged if they speak out against their rapists! While I was reading those articles, I couldn't help but think of how a lot of this is society's fault. Society objectifies women and tries to show them as sex objects good for only one thing. This message is passed on to men going into the military thinking that it's a man's war and women don't belong in uniform. If more women are portrayed equally on TV, in ads and in books then MAYBE guys will wise up and realize we have a brain! As for me personally, I have never been like that. I won't starve myself just to get a man's approval or degrade myself by wearing skimpy clothing. I don't even wear make-up.

    1. You are so right. They are being taught that we're either 1. sex objects or 2. baby machines.